Setting You Wedding Date: Some Tips

Assalammualaikum dan hello my lovely readers semua.

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So how does one determine their wedding date? Ni salah satu benda yang memeningkan kepala bagi setiap B2B and G2B (groom to be). Rilla tak sure lah whether tips ni berguna ke tak, but this is how me, Kanda and our family decided the date for my wedding.

1. Discuss with your fiance on possible dates. Ni no-brainer pun kan? Tapi make sure list beberapa dates yang sesuai ok, bukan 1 date je. So your elders ada options. Remember, we're dealing with two families here.
2. Decide on your events arrangement. Nak nikah and sanding hari lain-lain ke, same day ke. Majlis tandang bila? Nak join kenduri ke ape.
3. Consider the holidays. Whether it's important for your family to have it on school holidays or not. In my case, tak berapa penting sebab family tinggal dekat-dekat dan sepupu semua dah besar-besar. But I tried to have it on public holidays.
4. Run through the possible dates with both sides of the family. Macam Rilla, Rilla bagi tahu kat mak dan ayah while Kanda informed his mom. Minta diorang pilih a few options juga. Bukan 1 date je. Make sure you inform them date you and your fiance paling suka. Lepas tu minta diorang bagi tahu you all date yang diorang prefer juga dari a few options yang diorang bagi tu.
5. Next, sit down and discuss with your fiance dates yang match. Meaning yang both family free. Then select your date.
6. Check whether your date tu clashed or too close with close relatives' events. Ni sangat penting. Mana tahu kot ada sepupu nak kawin time dekat-dekat wedding korang jugak kan. If they have chosen their date first, and your date tu dekat sangat atau sama dengan date diorang, back-out please...or at least try as much as possible to find another date. Mungkin pada kita tak apa, tapi kita tak tahu kemampuan saudara-mara kita kan? Baik dari segi kewangan mahupun tenaga fizikal ataupun masa.
7. Jika date korang tu ok, dan takde clash ke then boleh proceed dengan date pilihan korang.
8. Inform your family and announce it to your close relative (untuk mengelakkan saudara anda memilih tarikh itu/yang berdekatan juga).
9. Most important of all, ask Allah for patience because this can drive you crazy..well, almost.